You cannot live your children's lives for them; you can only be there to pickup the pieces when things go wrong.
你不能替孩子过活,只能在出现问题时帮忙解决。
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Many cat lovers live with a dilemma: they want to pickup the animals and hold them close, but if they do, their eyes will swell up and they'll start sneezing.