self-defeat·ing
adjective/ˌself dɪˈfiːtɪŋ/
/ˌself dɪˈfiːtɪŋ/
- causing more problems and difficulties instead of solving them; not achieving what you wanted to achieve but having an opposite effect
事与愿违的；适得其反的；弄巧成拙的 - Paying children too much attention when they misbehave can be self-defeating.
孩子有不良行为时，过分关注可能适得其反。 - It becomes self-defeating to go on wrangling about tactics.
继续争论策略就会弄巧成拙。
- Paying children too much attention when they misbehave can be self-defeating.