I still find it hard to understand that in her year-group of more than 100 girls she did not find a single kindred spirit, not even on the lacrosse pitch, where she was at home.

We gather as a group once or twice a year, for old times' sake, and get loaded.

Ranking schools is always controversial, and this year a group of 38 superintendents from five states wrote to ask that their schools be excluded from the calculation.