PHRASAL VERB (求助于人之前)讨好，安抚 If you soften someone up, you put them into a good mood before asking them to do something. (求助于人之前)讨好，安抚 [informal] [Also VERBPREPOSITION n]
If they'd treated you well it was just to soften you up. [VERB noun PREP.]
他们要是对你好，也不过是为了讨好你罢了。
SYN win over, weaken, disarm, soft-soap [informal]